Reading Female Authors: A List

When I was in graduate school, it occurred to me one day that all the authors I read were male, I couldn't even think of any female authors I had read or planned to read, so I decided to challenge myself to seek out and read more female authors. Here are some female authors I have read.

The Handmaids Tale by Margaret Atwood
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Topic: Dystopian Future; Fiction/Non-Fiction

The Handmaid's Tale is a book based on the premise that in a dystopian future, conservatism has taken over and woman are used as servants. For those who are elite and whose wife do not produce offspring, they are given handmaids with whom stay at their home and have relations with the end cause being procreation. Additionally, in this book, this dystopian future is recent enough that there are still people who remember a time before the sanctions on women, when they were equal, still having the right to vote, speak freely, read, write, and think.

The Hunger Games (Book 1) by Suzanne Collins
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Topic: Dystopian Future; Fiction/Non-Fiction

While the Handmaids Tale focused on women, in this society war has brought out the have from the have-nots, the rich from the poor. Basically, everyone who is not part of the Capital is in want and need while those in the Capital live in excess, throwing away food while others starve. The Hunger Games are a means of control, both providing entertainment, fear, and food/money to the victor. These games show the power of the government while allowing them to act as if the end justify the means, that by having a victor to whom to give gifts, the spilling of children's blood is acceptable and needed. For deeper meaning in this story one must read the books subtext, as the author is not merely telling a story but making a social commentary regarding government, free speech, entertainment, and reality television.

Getting Naked Later: A Book for the Fully Clothed by Kate Hurley
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Topic: Christianity; Singles
Blog: The Sexy Celibate ; Facebook

In this book, Kate Hurley takes us through her journey, thus far, of being single. Being a single Christian has not been easy for her, with her longings and desire for a husband and family. In the book she comments on issues in the church regarding singles, namely their desire to easily answer the complex questions and experiences singles bring, not just about themselves but about God's will. She writes about how many answer her desires with quick fixes, such as "Let it go and the right man will come" or "Pray and God will give you the desires of your heart". In truth, this dichotomy in the church between singles and marrieds is almost a class system. Most notably, for me in this book, was the scene where Kate describes being at a wedding, desiring to dance but being asked by no one. I appreciate the authors vulnerability and honesty in this book. I would recommend it to those who are single and those who are married who want to break down the walls between themselves and their single friends.

Ruby Slippers: How the Soul of a Woman Brings her Home by Jonalyn Grace Fincher
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Topic: Women; Females; Sexuality; Femininity; Christianity; The Church
Blog: Soulation: Jonalyn's Blog

I started reading this author on her blog (see above) and found her thoughts very interesting. I bought her book because I wanted to hear about females from a female author. Her book begs the question: What does it mean to be female? What does it mean to be female in the church? Most notably in her books is the fact that she states that while writing her book, diving into the scriptures and in conversations with other Christians, her views were transformed. Where she originally was going to write a book more along the lines of femininity and God's call to be complimentary rather than equal in the church, her mind was changed. She writes about the female soul, how it is part of the image of God, just as much as the male soul. Females are tuned into the emotional side of things, with the ability to use words either to uplift or tear down. Most notably to me was her honesty in admitting there have been times when she was tempted to use her emotional discernment to manipulate men instead of encourage them. Still, she writes about her struggle in the church trying to speak out and think critically as a female while being in a mans domain.

Guilty As Sin by Tami Hoag
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Topic: Thriller; Mystery

I am going to be honest. I got this book at a gift-shop for .50 cents. I was intrigued by the premise and it looked like something similar to a novel by John Grisham or Tom Clancy, so I gave it a try. In this book the main character is a female caught in the midst of a murder trial. The murder started as a kidnapping and moves on as the wheels move in the investigation, in the courts, and in the female leads life-long obsession with her job and her inner desire to find love and happiness in a world she is unsure of life and finds it unpleasant after so many years of working on such cases. Worth a read!

When We Were in Fire by Addie Zierman
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Topic: Memoir, Christianity; Conservatism; Evangelicalism
Blog: Addie Zierman: How to Talk Evangelical ; Facebook

First of all, this author is very open about her life. Basically, she grew up as a conservative evangelical, many times trying to please her boyfriend, instead of finding out who she was herself. This book describes, in length, her time with her first boyfriend, and then later as time went on how she began to find herself. This book is a messy, but I feel sometimes life is messy and reading something like this puts a mirror up to the reader to question the status quo (especially among the religious) and also to figure out what life and faith mean for them. I would definitely recommend this book, especially to those who grew up conservative or to those who want to better understand the life and thoughts of one who grew up in that situation for years, struggling later to break free from that past and find her own journey.

Celibate Sex by Abbie Smith
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Topic: Single, Sexuality, Celibacy, Faith
Website: Unsteady Saint ; Facebook

Honestly, it took me a while to get into this book. However, after a chapter or two I began to really enjoy this book. Abbie writes about the dichotomy between the single and those who are married in the church. She asks how come the church seems to value those who are married over those who are single, when Jesus himself was single. Certainly there are verses that speak of the riches of marriage; yet we also have scriptures that speak of the great opportunity afforded to those who are single or choose to be single. In effect, the single person can devote more time to God and the kingdom when they are not consumed with pleasing their spouse and keeping up with children. Abbie writes very well to express how both married and single persons can both be equally serving God, only by different means and avenues. Neither should be praised nor looked down upon.

More Female Authors on my To-Read List:
Oryx and Crake (MaddAddam Trilogy #1) by Margaret Atwood
Evolving in Monkey Town: by Rachel Held Evans
Christianity After Religion: by Diana Butler Bass
Jesus Feminist: An Invitation to Revisit the Bible’s View of Women by Sarah Bessey
Holy Ghost Girl: A Memoir by Donna Johnson
Pastrix: The Cranky, Beautiful Faith of a Sinner & Saint by Nadia Bolz-Weber
On Death and Dying ; Life Lessons ; The Wheel of Life by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
The Great Emergence by Phyllis A. Tickle
Daring Greatly: by Brené Brown
Beauty Restored by Me Ra Koh
My Sisters Keeper by Jodi Picoult
Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain
Ordinary People by Judith Guest
Fired Green Tomatoes at the Whistle Stop Cafe by Fannie Flag
Redeeming Love by Francine Rivers
A Beautiful Mind by Sylvia Nasar
The Giver by  Lois Lowry
Water for Elephants by Sara Gruen

Have you read any of these books?
If so, what did you think?

Do you have any female authors you would recommend?

~ Daniel Brockhan

Moments That Define Us

I was speaking with a few of my coworkers over a meal a few weeks back about moments that define us. We were talking politics briefly and one of them said Bill Clinton was a great president. Now, overall, I do think he was a good president; however, I said he wasn’t great (nor will he be considered great) because of the sex scandal. Then he remarked that a person shouldn’t be defined by one mistake. I told him while that is true, the reality is that we are defined by what we do, not always who we are as a whole person. That instance with Clinton did not make him a horrible person but it did lessen his greatness and ability as president, using such power for his own purpose, lying, and the ways in which it affected his family most of all. He lost respect, and therefore, lost greatness.

I then asked if a preacher had an adulterous relationship, should he be forgiven or should he be fired. I mean, it was only one mistake, right? Does it make him a bad person? My friend answered that there is a difference and when I asked what was the difference he fell silent. The truth is simple, we are defined by what we do, by the things that happen to us, sometimes we have control over them and sometimes we do not.

Some of these instances, like the one with Bill Clinton, involve sin, or ways we hurt or cause harm to ourselves and others, usually for selfish reasons. I wouldn’t say any one sin, or a few instances of wrong, make someone a bad person, but over time the accumulation of sin, along with the desire of their heart, defines who they are as a person overall.

However, one has to realize there are always consequences, good and bad, to choices in life. Clinton had to be put on trial, just like a preacher caught in adultery would need to be fired. This isn’t to suggest there isn’t forgiveness or healing, but that those things come after the punishment. Besides, anyone who knows psychology is aware that most people do good or bad things based on reward and punishment, not simply from a desire to do good for themselves or for the good of the community.

Then there are the instances where we must go through things that define us. Maybe we feel we have the tendency toward gluttony, lust, anger, gossip, lying, or a whole host of other things. I am not even talking about the sin and action but the temptation to do these things, some sin that we find ourselves addicted to and trying to get over. I think we can define ourselves by the things we fight against instead of the things we fight for in our life.

Then there are the psychological disorders, one like anorexia, anxiety, bulimia, binge-eating, PTSD, depression, mania, and bi-polar disorder. One could group these, along with other addictions, such as alcohol, drugs, sex, or porn, but my point is that there is something in these people that clicks one day, either genetics and/or from their environment, and likely for the rest of their life they will struggle with this disease. Yet, if one has depression, do they define themselves by their struggle or by their victory? Are we the pieces of our life or the whole?

I guess that I am getting at is there are always those negative aspects of self that we deal with as individuals. I feel like oftentimes we identify ourselves by our failures and struggles than by our victories and all the other wonderful things about us. I wonder why we do this to ourselves.

Maybe you find yourself judging friends, maybe they are constantly seeking approval from the wrong people or you feel are on the wrong track. Instead of gossiping, maybe it is time to offer a helping hand or encourage them in the positive areas in their life.

Maybe you are your worst critic, always letting things slide or maybe you want things to be perfect but find life can be a mess. Perhaps you need to have some grace on yourself. Maybe you need to stop focusing on the negative aspects of your life and instead, improve and expand on the great things about yourself.

While we may have a tendency to feel the harsh moments define us, the beautiful ones define us as well. I think over time, if we would infuse our life with more good, positive, and beautiful things, we might just find those moments define us much more than our struggles and hardships. Perhaps, it is once we have gone through those tough times we can see the positive aspects of our life and self even more clearly.

Related Post: Defined by Christ, Not Sin

What moments in your life define you?
Are they hardships? Victories? Both?

~ Daniel Brockhan

Looking Back at 2013

 

Here is my last blog post regarding resolutions:

2011: Resolutions for the Upcoming Year

I do not really make resolutions every year, at least as a habit. I find that life can change a lot, so goals need to be flexible; yet, we must have some purpose or focus lest our life become meaningless and monotonous, day by day with no reason or clarity.

2013 has been a great and insane year for me. I went from being a second year chaplain resident to being a staff chaplain. I went from being two hundred and ninety-five pounds to two hundred and twenty-five this past October (making my total weight loss since Feb. 2012 one-hundred pounds). I moved from Lubbock, TX to Buffalo, NY. I went from having a good support system and then having to start all over again.

I came to Buffalo with my car packed as full as I could get, leaving beds and chairs behind. I mailed my books, made sure to keep my computer, DVD's, and my guitar. I sold all my furniture. I drove over 1,500 miles by myself over the course of an entire week, driving through horrible rainy weather, and staying in hotels all by myself (Thank goodness for my GPS and Kindle Fire!).

I am not saying these things to induce any form of pity; instead I say them to express my strength. A strength I did not know that I ever had before this time. I never imagined I would move so far, that I would accomplish so much, and that I would do it all on my own. Certainly, I had friends help me, but once I left Texas I was all by myself, except for updating everyone through Facebook and blog posts.

As I have been here I have gone back and forth between feeling accomplished, while at the same time having feelings of aloneness, seeking community. Yes, I have my hard days when the distance between my family and friends in Texas and this place does weigh on me.

I did accomplish losing one-hundred pounds. While I am still so excited, the last two months since I met that goal have been grueling. Sometimes I just crave food, while other times because of the wintery weather, I cannot workout. Still, I have stayed strong and haven’t gained back. If I can just resist pizza more often and stick to eating more veggies and fruits, I know I can get to my next goal of weighing two hundred pounds.

Losing that weight though, made me reexamine my life, forced me to look at things that I thought were impossible in my life and begin to start taking steps forward. One of the areas I have been neglecting for years was having a daily time of reading the scriptures. I am happy to say that in November I started and have not missed one day since.

To some that might not seem like a victory; however, considering I haven’t had consistent times reading the scriptures like this since I was in middle school, I'd say that is an improvement! I find I am more focused and beginning to be more purposeful, seeking ways I can be involved in my growth, instead of just letting life pass me by day by day.

I am also currently working on my paperwork for Board Certification as a Chaplain. This is amazing, since in 2011 I was seeking if this is what I wanted to do with my life. Here I am now, working on being certified and loving what I do everyday; visiting patients, family, and staff.

My only ongoing request as I am here, and into 2014, is that God provide me with good friends here in this place. Friends who love life, have a sense of humor, and don’t mind speaking about the serious aspects of life. Friendship is so important and those who have lived in one place, who have had great friends all their life, cannot really understand what it feels like to move so far from everyone and everything you have ever known.

I also found a church after months of searching. It is hard to express in words; yet I do find that when I go to church, I truly do feel in community with my brothers and sisters in Christ. Truly the church is one spirit, the spirit of love, community, and faith founded and focused on Christ Jesus. Church, in every place I have moved to in my life, has helped me find solace during confusing and trying times.

I ask prayer for relationships to happen, deepen, and grow.

So, here is to 2014.

It is coming... are you ready?

Are you ready for something new and different?

Are you ready to cut out the past, the hurt, the old feelings or pain and start anew?

How did you life change in 2013?

What will you be changing or looking forward to in 2014?

~ Daniel Brockhan

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Plank Eye Syndrome

There is a serious syndrome in our churches, among the people who claim to be followers of Jesus the Christ. This syndrome leads to judgment, bitterness, hatred, malice, gossip, smugness, and all other manner of ill feelings towards others inside, and outside, of the church. How did so many of us get here?

I think somewhere among the verses speaking of being above reproach (1 Tim. 1:3:2) and trying to be perfect as Christ is perfect (MT 5:48), that we as Christians have forgotten that perfection is actually not possible. Why? Because even in the midst of the spirit of God inside of us, we are still very much persons of flesh, having a sinful nature still with us at this present time.

Have we so very soon forgotten that we too were once without Christ, each one of us, at some point was left to our own devices, our own sinful nature. We made a choice to follow Christ; however, the choice to follow does not mean we will not falter, that we will make incorrect decisions, assumptions, and judgments on others (and regarding ourselves).

There is a great divide between those who want to be conservative and hold firm to traditions and beliefs, while others cry out for freedom and liberation from all the rules, institutions, and chains they feel are causing them heavy burdens. As Christians, we forget that we no longer have to be bound by the things of this world, that we are now part of a different Kingdom where the lines are not drawn so plainly, except for the arrows pointing us in the direction of Christ, to seek his life, teaching, and pursue him first and foremost, beyond political parties and beyond judgments.

We forget that even Jesus let people walk away from him, like the rich young ruler (MT 19:16-22) or nine of ten men with leprosy (LK 17:11-19). Not to mention, that even the scripture of the woman caught in adultery (John 8:1-11), we see Jesus tell her to sin no more, and then we are left with no resolve. What happened to her? Did she change? Did she stay the same? I think we are left with questions because Christ is asking us:

Have you changed?

Have you stayed the same?

What difference have I made or am I making in your life?

Notice Jesus is asking us these questions. Asking you the question. Jesus is not telling us that we need to monitor everyone else, to make sure they are above reproach, staying pure, out of sin, and in line with everything we think, say, or do. No, instead Christ holds us accountable to him, to our own understanding and convictions.

With this understanding, we come to see that Jesus never once made anyone follow him. Jesus never once belittled someone for choosing something else, though perhaps he did feel sadness when they turned away. He respected their view, their choice to chose, figure out things out on their journey, and in their own time.

In addition, it was not the sinners or sick who Jesus had stern words for but the religious, those who seemed to find pride in obsessing with rules and oppressing others with religion and institution while forgetting the heart for God, pursuing God, and loving their neighbor as themselves (MT 22:34-40). And so in Matthew 7, we read this story:

 “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. - Matthew 7:1-5

Today, are you seeing your life clearly?

Do you find yourself judging others while neglecting your own issues and faults?

What are some things you might need to work on?

Where is God convicting you today?

~ Daniel Brockhan